“Should I stay or should I go?” Have you ever caught yourself wondering this question in a relationship?

Maybe you and your partner are constantly arguing about the same things, but nothing ever changes, begging the question if the relationship is really worth fighting for because things are just so toxic.

Even if you're strong and independent - a leader in the workplace, driven and successful - you still might not be figuring out the romantic part even though you feel successful everywhere else.

Maybe you're still stuck fantasising about what could have been in a past relationship, and you’re waking up in the middle of the night wondering if you're actually going to ever have a truly mutual love with the person sleeping next to you.

Maybe you feel so much guilt that it's stopping you from taking the action you really want to do.

You might even be wondering, “Is a nourishing relationship even possible for someone like me, given everything I've gone through?”

This is a big one: “If I do leave, am I so broken that I will just end up repeating the same patterns and problems with someone else? Am I still unhealed to the point where I'm going to recreate this?”

What I've discovered is that that's not the real problem.

Truthfully, if you don't have a healthy, functional relationship, it's not your fault. Take a look at the kind of relationship that you were born into - what was your parent’s relationship like, and how did they deal with conflict? Because that's what was modelled to you.

It’s not really you making decisions in your relationships - it’s your nervous system and your triggers calling the shots based on your attachment style as either anxious, avoidant or secure.

It’s emotional, and until we get that right, we will keep repeating the same patterns again and again and again.

The Correlation Between Health Problems And Emotions

Have you ever noticed a correlation between your physical injuries and your emotional wounds?

As a chiropractor, I began to notice the connection between the physical and the emotional. And I thought to myself, “I don't really want to be working just with physical bodies; I want to go upstream.”

In 2009 I started going deeper into my own kind of personal development journey and began teaching a class in my office called Life Skills For A Stressful World, where I would teach my patients who are coming in with health related problems my methodology for healing their stuck emotions.

I learned the John Demartini method, I did the work with Byron Katie and Joe Dispenza, and I was the creator of an overview method to help heal these past emotional injuries.

But essentially, why on Earth you should be listening to me is that first and foremost - Rachelle was referred to me by another client who was a friend of hers, and she was going through a divorce.

I basically walked her through to a place where she healed the split. He's with another person, she's on her own, but they still kind of work together and there is no resentment that's breaking them down.

And we were able to get to that place using five powerful transitions needed to break repetitive patterns and create the relationships you want without years of counselling or couple’s therapy.

You can experience this, too. And check this out - your partner doesn’t need to do this work. You can single-handedly change the space in your relationship. That's how powerful you are.

When you stop rationalising and start learning how to respond to feeling like you're no longer a victim of fate, then you actually begin to create your reality.

Because from that place of empowerment, you're now able to self-regulate and self-assess and self-soothe, and your health and hormonal system completely improves and you're able to let go of tension more easily.

But first, you have to decide - you have to commit - that you are ready for a change that begins with you. You have to know for certain that you are ready to show up for yourself.

It’s Time To Make A Move

Ask yourself: are you actually wanting to transform your dysfunctional patterns in relationships such as infidelity, volatility, push-pull dynamics, insecure attachments and avoidant attachments?

For those that are inspired to move forward and take action, I’m ready to meet you.

My big promise to you is that I'm going to give you the step by step guide to cultivating the healthy, functional and loving, securely-attached, interdependent relationships that you never learned to have.

That sounds like a lot, but it's basically feeling secure, safe and engaged in a relationship - not being afraid that they're going to leave or wanting to get the hell out of the relationship.

I'm going to teach you how to dissolve codependent cycles, heal relationship anxiety and transform your trauma bonds, understand where your triggers come from and how to stop repeating the past and finally heal unusual chronic health symptoms that your doctors can't really explain but you know are related to your relationship breakdowns.

I will give you access to the tools that you're going to need to resolve these past triggers so you can become a safe container for secure relationships to thrive, both personal and in business.

You don’t need to keep repeating the past in your relationships.